I’ll never forget a conversation I had a few years ago. I was asked by an acquaintance how Camryn was doing. After giving my update, she looked at me and said “it could be worse.” The acquaintance at that point had no kids and all I kept thinking was I hope you never know what it is like to have a child who isn’t what you planned for.
I’ve come a long way since that comment stung, but for the record, I can’t stand it could be worse. If your child is getting in trouble at school and you are upset about it, that can be your worst. If your child didn’t get invited to a party and you’re upset, that can be your temporary worst. I almost died and by the grace of God, lived. I know it could be worse!!!! Every person is entitled to their own worst without a comment reminding us that it could be worse.
Often times my friends will tell me something that is going on in their lives and then conclude by saying it could be worse. I always correct them and say this is your worst right now. From now on we need to stop saying this cliché to people. We need to stop making people think that their feelings aren’t valid because someone is going through something tougher. Someone will always be going through something tougher. It should be our job to lift one another up, not make them feel badly because someone else’s situation is harder. Likewise, I would never want anyone to feel that they couldn’t share their struggles with me because of our own challenges with Camryn.