Dave restores and repairs for a living. You know how they say don’t take your work home with you? Dave takes his work home with him everyday. I view him as the restorer and repairer of our home. I don’t mean cosmetically, I mean with his goodness, kindness and patience.
I couldn’t do this alone. Four kids, a house, a job, a dog, a cat, but mostly a child with a disability. Dave has so much care and compassion for Camryn. He will do anything he can to help her and has made that a priority in his life.
I view him as a servant to our daughter and I attribute that to his Godly character. He pushes her to do things, but she follows his lead and he does it out of love.
Of course Dave feels pain, but he has grown and learned things from the pain associated with having a child with a disability. He believes that Camryn can be everything that God has designed her to be and never treats her any different than our other girls.
I have yet to meet a person like him. A person who gives so selflessly. A person who never puts himself first. A person who loves all of us unconditionally.
Dave has been through so much, but always rises above and does so without complaint. To be married to someone who is an equal partner is so important, especially when you have a child with a disability. I never have to ask, he just does.
Maybe things would be different if we didn’t have Camryn. Maybe our marriage wouldn’t be strong. Maybe we wouldn’t be on the same page. Maybe we would fight over our roles. Maybe I would constantly be frustrated with him because he wasn’t living up to whatever expectations I would have for him.
Things are just different when you have a child with a disability. You and your spouse are either a team, you live together, but are so separate or unfortunately people, lots of them get divorced.
I am so blessed to have him with me on our journey. I know no different, but I think I am married to a gem. He cares for us, puts us first and loves us so much. He shows up everyday to do all he can for us.
His resilience has gotten me through. He helps to put things in perspective. He has such joy, which I believe is the best trait a person can have.
We are going to keep fighting for Camryn. I know that together we can get through anything. That gives me peace everyday of my life.
You never know on your first date what the future holds. When you get engaged, you don’t know what the future has in store for you. When you say your wedding vows, are you really focusing on the meaning? Life has thrown us curveballs that have put our vows to the test. Being married to a man who exemplifies our vows, gives me peace for our future. It may not be what we planned and we may have a sidekick with us at all times in the future, but that is okay, better than okay because he is by my side.