First, thanks everyone for the birthday love. It was such a great day. I am beyond thankful for 40.
Thanks also for continuing to pray for my amazing dad. We visited with him yesterday. The girls love their Granddad and Grandmummer so much!!
Visiting my dad brings me such joy. When I was in the hospital my dad came everyday for four months after work to visit with me. He would then leave with my Mom so she didn’t have to drive herself home from HUP.
Everyday he entered my room stating, “It’s your favorite Dad.” For awhile I wasn’t able to answer. Once I was able to speak I would always respond, “It’s your favorite child.”
***I have always told him I am his favorite child!!
Everyday he told me, “Slow and steady wins the race,” and everyday I would remark, “This is too slow.” He would then remind me how far I’ve come, that I could do this and then tell me a really bad joke that would make my family laugh and roll our eyes at the same time.
The year after I had Aubrey and Courtney I had three surgeries that prevented me from lifting the girls for a total of 18 weeks. My Dad would come as much as he could to help me with the girls. He is so selfless. Anyone could ask my Dad for anything and he would do it in an instant.
When my Dad was given this crappy diagnosis, I began ‘giving back’ by trying to help him look on the bright side. I coached him on using cancer as an excuse to get out of everything he didn’t WANT to do and had him practice.
Andy, can you please take out the trash?
Nance, I am too busy fighting cancer to do a task like that.
When I got done coaching him he looked at me and said, “It could be worse.” I tried to be serious, but then started cracking up. I said, “Dad, if you are going to pull the ‘cancer card’ you can’t say it could be worse. You clearly need more practice.” Then we both laughed because we agreed this is pretty bad and probably can’t be worse.
Yesterday, I presented my Dad with official Cancer Cards. These are homemade cards that he can use through his journey. I very seriously told my family that I googled them, but they don’t exist. This made us all laugh becuase of course they don’t exist. My mom said I should make them for every illness. She is just as sick as I am.🤦♀️
His cards came with instructions to use as many as he wants a day and refill packs will be available monthly. Some of the cards said:
Jill, I look good bald.
Drew, take us all to Europe because I have cancer.
Take Mom somewhere nice.
Visit the grandkids.
Girls, my brain is so big that I was able to grow a tumor.
Dave, take me for a drink.
Who cares that Kristi was in a coma? #teamandy
Play a game with Carter.
Nance, take me to Pep Boys.
Because I am beating cancer, you will watch the History Channel with me.
Call your favorite child.
In life, you can either laugh or cry. We’ll laugh as much as we can. My siblings were very quick to note that I have too much time on my hands. 😂
My blog has a new category. Cancer. I never expected to add this category, but a family fights together. With my mom and dad’s permission, I will share his journey. He is a man of dignity and grace. Fighting alongside of him will be the most valuable experience.