I just watched an episode of The Gilmore Girls and the main character described something as being retarded. I was taken aback, despite this show being written in 2000 that the word was utilized instead of another adjective. THANKFULLY awareness of how offensive this word is has spread across homes and classrooms due to nationwide campaigns.
This word should be banned from everyone’s vocabulary. If you use the word retarded you need to check yourself. Not only does it make you sound entirely uneducated, it is very offensive.

Last year I was having a conversation with an educator and he used the word retarded during the span of our 10 minute conversation.

He did the old, I USUALLY don’t say this word, but still continued to litter his sentence with ignorance. I hate when people make the statement I usually don’t say this but… Yes you do. If you are saying it, you say it and stop right there. THERE IS NO NEED TO LIE.  You aren’t fooling me? I felt like we were transportated back to a faculty room from the 1970s. We were smoking cigarettes while figuring out what to do with the retarded.

Should I have corrected this person? Yes!! Do I regret that I didn’t? Yes!! Should I have informed this person that I don’t tolerate this word in my classroom or my home? Yes!

Not too long ago it would have been acceptable to describe my daughter as being retarded. The dictionary defines the word as less advanced in mental, physical, or social development. The dictionary is also clear to state that it is a dated offense. I guess all the updated professional development in the world hasn’t caught him up to speed.

I think the person is foolish. Would he use the word retarded during a job interview or when talking to parents?  The most chilling part is this person boosts about being a former life skills teacher. Thank God he never taught my daughter. If he uses the word, I have to question the expectations he has for ANY students.

Because I didn’t say anything, blogging to urge some vocabulary awareness will have to do. Please don’t use this word; don’t let your kids use this word. It is such a foolish and ignorant word.

There are lots of adjectives that I could use to describe Camryn.

She is kind.
She is funny.
She is a great sister.
She is a great daughter.
She is a hard worker.
She is turning into quite a chef.
She loves people.
She loves traveling.
She loves technology.
She is beautiful on the inside.
She loves Jesus.
She loves her family.
She is OBSESSED with Duff and Valerie from the Food Network. Did I tell you that already?

She sounds a lot like the rest of us!

I think she has so much potential just like every other child. I am thankful that I am her Mom and I know that no word, diagnosis or any judgement placed on her will ever define her.

We all know not everyone was made to be a teacher. I guess we could say for some it is a senseless, absurd or illogical or career choice.




  1. Lisa on May 21, 2017 at 10:07 pm

    Ugh!! Can’t stand that word!

  2. Heather Cavey (Kenny Lindseys mom) on May 22, 2017 at 5:59 am

    Love love love this!

  3. Kristi on May 22, 2017 at 6:01 am

    I can’t believe we even still hear it!!

  4. Kristi on May 22, 2017 at 6:01 am


  5. Kellyann Mitchell on May 22, 2017 at 6:39 am

    Oh Kirsti, you are speaking my language! I believe this so strongly, in fact, I started a whole company based on the idea that Words Matter. My parents raised us to NEVER use the R word and uh, this was the 70’s!! How did my parents know it was wrong to describe my uncle with down syndrome in the 70’s using the R word but yet we still hear it used in 2017? I could go in and on on this subject. I also have a real problem with people using the word “gay” to describe something or someone as weird, different or stupid. Ok , I should stop now, haha. I really could keep going.

  6. Karen Kenny on May 22, 2017 at 9:01 am

    Word makes me cringe!!!

  7. Kristi on May 22, 2017 at 9:56 pm

    Me too!!

  8. Kristi on May 22, 2017 at 9:57 pm

    I am with you. Gilmore Girls used the word gay too. I couldn’t believe it. I am so sorry it is my current source of information!!! 😂

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